Relationships with Love: Secrets Out

The secret of good love life? To dare to speak.

Nir went to bed, close to Dana and strokes her. Because she is not responding, he whispers to her: "Do you?". Dana was an exhausting day, and just started calling. When the plow up desire, she is somewhere else entirely. This does not mean she does not want him, but she did not have time to prepare for sex. Nir offended because Dana's reaction.

This is a classic picture of my life many couples. Is it differences at sexual needs? Erosion desire for routine? Or just a misunderstanding due to lack of communication?

You can continue to develop loving sex provide year after year. The solution - better sexual communication: to dare to talk about sex with your spouse, learn to talk, communicate. Sex better than to love better. Instead of saying "you want?", Paper had to say "I want to sleep with you / love you". So, Dana did not feel attacked and committed to take the desires of the paper. She could say "Yes, I want to but not immediately, or no way" or "No, I'm too tired. More later or tomorrow morning, if you want". So, the media was not interrupted.

Why do we prefer to keep quiet?

Communicate - easy to say, but it is not always simple to perform. When we talk about our sexual intimacy, often with little embarrassment humorous manner. Sarit came to me after months of frustration in sex with her husband: "I could never tell him how I want him to pat me." Miri said, "I did not dare tell him 'no' and angry that he did not understand it".

Often, we are afraid to break the romantic when dealing with technical details. Say both what you love or not, give him the operating instructions of the body, it also admit the myth of "Prince Charming" who knows exactly what we wanted. It also thank the other is the expert we thought. We are silent also because we are afraid - afraid to surprise or be judged because we are not what the other thought. We're afraid the hurt partner identity and receive back in kind.

Monthly meeting

How to begin to communicate about sex? Impossible after years of silence, suddenly begin to illuminate shadowed areas, because it may cause shock relationships. First of all, there to reassure your spouse that love him, and then create the best framework of mutual listening. Do not talk about it at dinner. The couple set a regular meeting once a month, which the couple discussed their sexual status, and take the time to say what is good and what is not good. This meeting is to exchange information about what everybody feels.

They say all, but carefully

Sexuality is a form of communication already own, but she also needs words. The words are giving a picture about the state's desire to partner letting respond appropriately. Communicate, it also give the possibility to solve the special problems that arise, such as premature ejaculation. Seek solutions together, instead of wasting the energy to silence the problem. What to say? Basically everything. In fact, to say only what the other can hear. The couple will talk about what is good, it would be easier to talk about what is not good. Even better start with what's good, so the media will not be a substitute for criticism.

Identify the needs to express them

To express different desires, must first identify them. You can check the five senses and write what you love and who do not like, how would prefer to have sex, when, where, what positions, etc.. After each partner expressing his own desires, they can see what their common desires and what not. So, you can also negotiate. Should also learn to say 'no' when do not want, put the refusal to love and give the reasons. In contrast, in bed, not talking about the quality of relationship that both partners are vulnerable too. This is the place to feel, feel, say what you want to do or not.

Dare

Dare sexual communication is the word. Dare to be curious, to see new worlds. Venture to improve sex. If you want enjoyment will last, should leave routine. To improve the sexual, should not be afraid to develop the senses. For example, touch - to discover new areas usually neglected.